Sunday, June 30, 2013

GOING AGAINST THE GRAIN

Sometimes, You have To Go Against The Grain?

It is an honor and a privilege to write this post for my friend. I have come as close to social justice as I can with this post.  Sometimes it is better to stay in your lane, and so I am posting on something that hope will be beneficial to all and hopefully fall somewhere within the category of social justice. I pray it will be agreeable to all!
We as people are really just like a piece of fabric.  If you cut it the right way, you get the product that you want.  But if you cut it against the grain, you will end up with shards and shreds of fabric.  If you are lucky enough to be able to create a garment with the fabric cut against the grain, it will be that garment that just never fits right, always twists itself, no matter how many times you straighten it out. It was after all cut against the grain of the fabric and is really unable to hold the shape of the garment owing to the properties of the grain. 
To go “against the grain” means to go against the generally accepted practice, or societal norms, or simply something that is unpleasant.  A slightly different usage might be to describe something that one needs to do, but that goes against one’s own inclinations.
I hope to help everyone with something that not too long ago was a very perplexing matter to me.  So that it makes sense to you, let me tell you about a decision that I had to make.  I was raised Christian and my marriage wasn’t really working out. To get a divorce was unthinkable!  Once you get married, you are to stay married, no matter what!  God will make a way somehow, is how I was raised.  So to get a divorce was a no, no!
Let me let you know, I stayed in that marriage for as long as I could. My level of unhappiness was just too great. I cried all the way to work! I put Visine in my eyes to hide the redness and did a very wonderful job.  Time to go home and the tears would start falling again!!!
In my head, I knew I made the right decision! It was peaceful when I came home, no one there to argue and fuss with! Praise the Lord!!
But somewhere, I could feel that something wasn’t right. There weren’t many self help books for divorced women, so I winged this on my own. I learned Aromatherapy! Great stuff there, but still I could feel somewhere within myself, something was wrong!

Believe me, I prayed day and night, but I still wasn’t getting any relief.  Where is that Holy Spirit that Mama had told me about, that would come and help you in times of deep distress! Still I thanked God for providing me with sound mind and body and a portion of health and strength that I did have.  I learned how to be a medical intuitive, and I could sense the area where there was incongruence in my body even, but that still didn’t quite get it.
So I kept on pursing and checking with everyone I knew, because I had to find some relief for myself.  I did not want to take any medicines. People told me just take a little Valium, you will be alright.  But medicines and my system just do not get along.  That is why I took the time to learn about Aromatherapy and natural herbs. They worked for me for the most part, especially since there are no after affects to deal with like oftentimes there are with medicines.
Well, one day I came across this little book by a Shakti Gawain titled, The Four Levels of Healing!  God bless her, wherever in the world she is! She brought out how that we are not just these bodies! Surprise, surprise!  I being a Christian knew about the spirit part of us, but did not really comprehend it very well. But I did after she explained that we have 4 levels to us, Spiritual, Mental, Physical and Emotional and how you have to heal on all levels!
Mentally and physically, I was ok!  I was alright with the decision that I finally made to leave and get divorced!  I just couldn’t take it no mo’ and I had to go, or I wasn’t going to be ok mentally for too much longer. Spiritually for the most part, I was ok. The discovery of having a spiritual and an emotional body was just what the doctor ordered.  I had achieved healing in the other parts of myself, but in the not knowing about the spiritual and emotional parts of myself as ”bodies” and that those parts needed to be healed as well, was my answer!  It was as if someone had literally pulled an arrow right out of my spirit, and believe me I could spell relief!!! I had relief in all of my “bodies”!
I was again a whole person! Emotionally, I was not alright with that decision, because it did go against my grain!  It just wasn’t something that I ever wanted to do. I wasn’t raised that way, so to speak.  Trust me, I will never put anyone in jail like that again, without a get out of jail free card.  You were not meant to be mistreated in any way, so if you are in a situation, that is not healthy, do not be afraid to go against the grain, so to speak, there will be help for you to again become whole!

Louise Malbon-Reddix is the Author of:

Stand In Your Anointment - This Too Shall Pass!

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14 comments:

  1. Thank you for this piece, Louise. I'm sure it can help many people.

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  2. Marta Merajver, I do thank you too!!! I truly want to be of help and service to to others and I so hope that if any are struggling in life as I was that they too find the relief they need. Again I am honored, and ever grateful to you for hosting me on your blog. Again, many, many thanks to you!!!

    Louise

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  3. Hi,

    The title of your article is a challenge that I love. There are so many people that are afraid to change because they are worried about what the family, neighbors, or friends will say. And like you said in your article, we are excellent at locking ourselves up in a small jail cell, and may I add to it, with no water heat, or toilet equipment. We torture ourselves thinking that we have to be perfect but nobody is perfect.

    To come to the realization that I as an individual will make mistakes, and sometimes huge ones, that will also disappoint others is in my opinion the first step to accepting responsibility for your own life. it gives you the freedom to forgive yourself and keep going.

    Thank you Louise for this very inspiring piece of encouragement and for the exposure that you have revealed about yourself in this article.

    Keep moving forward; I like what I read.

    Shalom,
    Patti

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    1. Ms. Pat, Thank You so much!! And I appreciate your additions, no heat, water or toilet equipment!!! Healing sometimes requires that you expose your pain!!!

      Louise

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  4. Louise, Thanks for sharing this revealing and horrific path in your life. You are an inspiration to others traveling the same road.

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    1. Cynthia, hopefully will help some to stay off of this road or find an earlier exit then I did!!!
      Louise

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  5. Louise, thanks for a well written reminder that our emotional side interferes and interconnect with our physical and mental. When one is not in the sync the other suffers. I like what you wrote about guilt-I grew up raised on and kept in line by guilt. I'm still learning how to keep both healthy.

    Hugs, Micki

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    1. Amen Micki!!! I am so trying to be healthy too!!!

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  6. Thanks Louise for sharing your experience. Certainly, nothing can bring you peace but yourself and that occurs when you start developing your innate strengths and abilities. It's not easy at all, but possible as you have shown us.

    All the best,

    Ana.

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    1. Ana, you are welcome, and that is just what I was trying to do!!! Help others to find their strengths and abilities!!!
      All the best to you to my friend!!!

      Louise

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  7. And All, this is my motto - If I can help somebody as I pass along this way, then my living will ot have been in vain!!!!! Hear it from one of the greatest Gospel Singers of All time!!! Enjoy and be blessed!!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPnn6UeBKt8

    Louise

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  8. Pretty much anyone who reads my posts on my Blogs, Facebook or Google+ knows that I'm very outspoken and live my truth but at one point I was in bondage also. Finally I said Goodbye to toxic people, their opinions and most of the outdated dogmas and doctrines forced down our throats by the church/religion. Oh Happy Day! I'm free from people. I only abide by my parents teachings to put on your thinking cap and be a Freethinker! Delivered!

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  9. Dancing Palmtrees, Kudos to You!!!! Stay Free!!!!
    Louise

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  10. I didn't feel the pain or depression that you felt, Louise, not until he died seven years after our divorce. Then I became starkly aware of the power of our subconscious to suppress negative emotions--suppress, not eliminate. Eliminating them doesn't occur until we are willing to face them. Then the medicine becomes available; for me, that medicine was also a book. I wonder what form it has taken for others willing to face the pain of guilt...

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