Sometimes, You have To Go Against The Grain?
It is an honor and a privilege to write this post for my friend. I have come as close to social justice as I can with this post. Sometimes it is better to stay in your lane, and so I am posting on something that hope will be beneficial to all and hopefully fall somewhere within the category of social justice. I pray it will be agreeable to all!
We as people are really just like a piece of fabric. If you cut it the right way, you get the product that you want. But if you cut it against the grain, you will end up with shards and shreds of fabric. If you are lucky enough to be able to create a garment with the fabric cut against the grain, it will be that garment that just never fits right, always twists itself, no matter how many times you straighten it out. It was after all cut against the grain of the fabric and is really unable to hold the shape of the garment owing to the properties of the grain.
To go “against the grain” means to go against the generally accepted practice, or societal norms, or simply something that is unpleasant. A slightly different usage might be to describe something that one needs to do, but that goes against one’s own inclinations.
I hope to help everyone with something that not too long ago was a very perplexing matter to me. So that it makes sense to you, let me tell you about a decision that I had to make. I was raised Christian and my marriage wasn’t really working out. To get a divorce was unthinkable! Once you get married, you are to stay married, no matter what! God will make a way somehow, is how I was raised. So to get a divorce was a no, no!
Let me let you know, I stayed in that marriage for as long as I could. My level of unhappiness was just too great. I cried all the way to work! I put Visine in my eyes to hide the redness and did a very wonderful job. Time to go home and the tears would start falling again!!!
In my head, I knew I made the right decision! It was peaceful when I came home, no one there to argue and fuss with! Praise the Lord!!
But somewhere, I could feel that something wasn’t right. There weren’t many self help books for divorced women, so I winged this on my own. I learned Aromatherapy! Great stuff there, but still I could feel somewhere within myself, something was wrong!
Believe me, I prayed day and night, but I still wasn’t getting any relief. Where is that Holy Spirit that Mama had told me about, that would come and help you in times of deep distress! Still I thanked God for providing me with sound mind and body and a portion of health and strength that I did have. I learned how to be a medical intuitive, and I could sense the area where there was incongruence in my body even, but that still didn’t quite get it.
So I kept on pursing and checking with everyone I knew, because I had to find some relief for myself. I did not want to take any medicines. People told me just take a little Valium, you will be alright. But medicines and my system just do not get along. That is why I took the time to learn about Aromatherapy and natural herbs. They worked for me for the most part, especially since there are no after affects to deal with like oftentimes there are with medicines.
Well, one day I came across this little book by a Shakti Gawain titled, The Four Levels of Healing! God bless her, wherever in the world she is! She brought out how that we are not just these bodies! Surprise, surprise! I being a Christian knew about the spirit part of us, but did not really comprehend it very well. But I did after she explained that we have 4 levels to us, Spiritual, Mental, Physical and Emotional and how you have to heal on all levels!
Mentally and physically, I was ok! I was alright with the decision that I finally made to leave and get divorced! I just couldn’t take it no mo’ and I had to go, or I wasn’t going to be ok mentally for too much longer. Spiritually for the most part, I was ok. The discovery of having a spiritual and an emotional body was just what the doctor ordered. I had achieved healing in the other parts of myself, but in the not knowing about the spiritual and emotional parts of myself as ”bodies” and that those parts needed to be healed as well, was my answer! It was as if someone had literally pulled an arrow right out of my spirit, and believe me I could spell relief!!! I had relief in all of my “bodies”!
I was again a whole person! Emotionally, I was not alright with that decision, because it did go against my grain! It just wasn’t something that I ever wanted to do. I wasn’t raised that way, so to speak. Trust me, I will never put anyone in jail like that again, without a get out of jail free card. You were not meant to be mistreated in any way, so if you are in a situation, that is not healthy, do not be afraid to go against the grain, so to speak, there will be help for you to again become whole!
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